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Written by Jeannie Ingram
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Saturday, November 05 2011 06:54 |
"Give me one reason to stay here... and I'll turn right back around..." -Tracy Chapman, Singer Songwriter
"I'll give you more than one" - Jeannie Ingram, Relationship Therapist
Relationships naturally present challenges, and usually trigger pain and reactive defenses. Some of these can be scary if we can't contain strong emotion. At this point, the temptation is to walk...
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Thursday, November 03 2011 19:54 |
When worry and anxiety hijack our minds, it feels awful. Symptoms of anxiety include tightening in the chest, racing heart, muscle tension, sweating, breathing problems, worry and obsessing about what is "wrong". Taken to the extreme, we may experience panic. I would do anything to avoid a panic attack, and I'm sure you would too! That is one monster I can live...
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Wednesday, November 02 2011 06:17 |
Entering a relationship is fun and easy for most people. The hard part is staying in when the relationship has lost its shimmer and the power struggle wears on in a hurtful way. Neither fighting nor withholding help anything and only serve to hurt. Neither person gets heard when the reptilian brain is engaged in punitive or cold warfare. And know...
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Wednesday, October 19 2011 00:00 |
So often, it’s not the love that is missing; it’s the loving behavior. Fighting, bickering, criticizing have become the language of everyday life, replacing the joy and love that was once so easy and natural. You may even be considering leaving – not because you don’t love your partner, but you are tired of the pain.
You may be in the "power...
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Tuesday, October 11 2011 00:00 |
How do you feel about who you are? How do you like the way I just put that question RIGHT out there? No sense tip-toeing around it. If self-esteem is the problem, then let's get to work on it.
I am often asked about how to increase self-esteem; so often, as a matter of fact, I'm considering a little mini-course. Maybe a weekend? Contact me if you're...
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Wednesday, September 07 2011 00:00 |
I received an e-mail alert that the Dalai Lama will be at Emory later this month, talking about mindfulness, compassion, and the treatment of depression. That should be good, and I hope to go. Depression is a relevant topic, affecting millions of people, causing much suffering. It is also among the most treatable conditions.
Depression may be either "chemical" or...
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Tuesday, August 23 2011 08:30 |
Typically, couples do not seek relationship counseling when things are going well. Often they wait until the relationship is in crisis, completely falling apart before they seek help.
The relationship may be in crisis because of some external threat or betrayal of trust, such as an affair. Or maybe the fighting has just become too frequent or painful. Perhaps the...
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Sunday, June 06 2010 00:00 |
Oh it can get downright painful and destructive. Combat between lovers. We Imagoans call it The Power Struggle. It typically shows up between 6 months and 2 years after you get together. It is reactive fighting. Lizard Brain stuff. That part of our brain, in case you didn't link over to Wikipedia, is located at the base of the brain stem...
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