Conflict is inevitable in relationship. The important issue is how you manage it.  Do you OPEN up toward understanding, or do you SHUT DOWN and CLOSE OFF in defensiveness?  Defensiveness will perpetuate the fighting, just so you know.  If you want to stop fighting and start loving, if you want to grow and heal your relationship (and therefore yourself), try listening for the sake of understanding. Stretch yourself to see your partner's perspective, which, of course is going be different!  Try not to be threatened by that fact of life.  Sincerely state your desire and intention to understand.  Doing so will connect you and build the essential trust.

I don't know the origin of the following four- step process to conflict resolution .  Some attribute it to Buddhist thought; others say it's the Native Americans.  What I DO know is that it is source of great wisdom and healing if both parties will genuinely agree to:

1. Show Up
2. Tell the Truth
3. Trust the Process
4. Be unattached to the Outcome

Show up by listening.  Listen to understand.  Listening is hearing the OTHER person.  Listen with great curiosity and without judgment.  Listen as though there is no right or wrong, but rather two inevitable perspectives.

If what you want is kindness, generosity, fun, joy and fulfillment in your relationship, then show up with those qualities.